Archive for ‘Self help’

March 11, 2014

Emotional Intelligence 2.0 by Travis Bradberry & Jean Greaves

EQMost Philosophers are half dead

– Plato

Emotional intelligence (abbreviated as EQ) has become a cliché in the popular culture.  Part of the reason why the cliché has become so popular is that it gives people hope. Even if you have a low IQ, you can be very successful still, by working in your EQ. Further hope is handed over by pointing that EQ is very learn able. However the curious thing is why people with high IQ, often have low EQ.

For the sake of argument, lets say that there are two kinds of people in this world. Those who operate on intellectual and intuitive level and those who operate on an emotional and sense level. People who are operate on an emotional and sense level are not aware of their own emotions. Since they are not aware of their own emotions, they will not be very good at managing the emotions of others. For them the path of cultivating emotional intelligence starts with developing self awareness.

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April 11, 2013

Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus (revisited)


Post by Guest Author:

“Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus”…catchy title for a book indeed!. It had caught my attention and became part of conscious mind while growing up surrounded by popular western cultural influences in an urban milieu of my country. And you can laugh at my naiveté, when I tell you that at the time I had taken the title in the literal sense, as the metaphorical implications of words had not yet developed fully for my understanding. It kept cropping up time and again around me till I graduated from my college. But, in spite of the catchy title and the colourful animated book cover, I had never bothered to actually get hold of the book, until recently, when one fine day my husband of 4 years bought home a cheap and pirated paperback version of the book.

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April 5, 2013

Affluenza by Oliver James


The plot of the books is simple. We are all becoming greedier. Some countries are greedy than others. People want material goods because they see others hoarding them, even though they do not have much need for them. Hoarding material goods is not the answer. Does the book give you an answer?

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October 5, 2012

Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus by John Gray

“What we’ve got here is (a) failure to communicate”

( from the movie Cool Hand Luke)

It is an urban myth that a writer has arrived when pirated copy of his books are sold on the footpaths of India. By that measure, John Gray has certainly done very well with this book. At least a large part of the success of this book must be attributed to the fact that dudes like to gift books to chicks that they are trying to impress, and maybe they want to show how sensitive they are by buying sweet -syrupy titles like this one. But jokes aside, there is plenty of value in this book.

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August 22, 2012

The Road Less Travelled by M. Scott Peck


Canst thou not minister to a mind diseas’d;

Pluck from the memory a rooted sorrow;

Raze out the written troubles of the brain;

And with some sweet oblivious antidote

Cleanse the stuff’d bosom of that perilous stuff

Which weighs upon the heart?


Therein the patient

Must minister to himself.

 ( From the play Macbeth by William Shakespeare)

The Road less travelled is a self help book.

Well dear reader, if you got a smirk after reading that last sentence; no one really blame you.

In fact  it is possible to make an argument against the phrase “self help” itself. It is not exactly self help when you are doing what someone else (a guru or author a self help book) tells you to do. Particularly when you have paid him, so you can help yourself. Why the price then? (in this case the price of the book).

Here in lies the first lesson. It is alright to seek “self help” by consulting a guru. A genuine guru (or consultant) lets you know that he cannot solve your problems. In such matters you must minister yourself. And to his credit M. Scott Peck lets the reader know that ultimately he has to help himself.

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